I’m of the belief that nerds are attracted to other nerds. And nerds come in all, shapes, sizes and colors. Some even come incognito, but you don’t know this when you meet them. I love men and I’m attracted to all kinds. I don’t discriminate. Beauty is what it is, and lies where it’s supposed to. Attraction is what it is and it may come as a surprise. A man who does not fit the standard definition of nerd may be a full-on t-shirt waving, flag-carrying, card-holding member of Nerds, Inc. It’s easy to pass judgment on what we see; we all do this every single day.
Which leads me to question, “What is a nerd?”
Here’s what Wikipedia has to say about it:
“Nerd is a derogatory slang term for a person typically described as intellectual, socially-impaired, and obsessive who spends inordinate amounts of time on unpopular, obscure, or highly technical pursuits, or relating to topics of fiction or fantasy, to the exclusion of more mainstream activities. Nerds are considered to be awkward, shy, and unattractive. Thus, a nerd is often excluded from physical activity and considered a loner by others, or will tend to associate with a small group of like-minded people. As with other pejoratives, nerd has been reappropriated by some as a term of pride and group identity.”
Google:
“A foolish or contemptible person who lacks social skills or is boringly studious: "one of those nerds who never asked a girl to dance".
An intelligent, single-minded expert in a particular technical discipline or profession.”
Dictionary.com
“a stupid, irritating, ineffectual, or unattractive person.
an intelligent but single-minded person obsessed with a nonsocial hobby or pursuit: a computer nerd.”
Notice how dictionary.com contradicts itself.
It’s a damn good thing I don’t need validation from anyone else. It’s even better that I can define myself. For me, a nerd is someone who is intelligent and focused; someone who has an interest in intellectual pursuits and can identify with several aspects of pop culture. And the nerds I know have multiple interests; they’re not single-minded in their fandoms or hobbies. Being a nerd has absolutely nothing to do with one’s appearance, and only an idiot would think so.
I’m a nerd, loud and proud, and I’m not shy, not foolish, and for damn sure not unattractive. I am a loner by choice, and I’m studious because I want to get ahead in life and not be stuck in the quicksand of banality; something most people are. Nerds work hard because they dream big; only underachievers see the trees.
If I get boo’ed up, trust me when I say that said boo will be a nerd like me. He may not wear glasses, and he probably won’t be awkward-looking. He certainly won’t be unattractive and he will definitely be a fanboy. We’ll have a lot in common and we’ll learn from each other. He’ll look the way he looks because I’m attracted to wit, intelligence and strength. He could look like Morris Chestnut or Tyrone down the street, but if he’s a nerd, then he’s got me.
Which leads me to this: Characteristics that I’d love for my nerdy boo to have. Disclaimer: These are just some sub-traits; by no means is this the official list.
- Be a lover of books; fantasy, horror, sci-fi, gothic, supernatural, and other dark subjects. There’d be no end to the book wars we’d have.
- Be a lover of movies of the above genres. We would spend a crapload of cash at AMC or Movie Tavern.
- Be a lover of B-grade and/or cheesy movies with bad F/X, horrible acting and terrible dialogue. The SyFy network is great and a component of a perfect weekend.
- Be unafraid to laugh at himself or be goofy in public. Because I’m not.
I’m also not greedy. Any combination of these traits is winning.
