I don't want this blog to become a pity party for my dating woes, but I feel inclined to write about Mz. Halle Burry. I remember back in the Strictly Business days when Halle had the short crop hairdo and wore bodysuits I wanted to be her. I cut my hair in the same style as her and I made several failed attempts at wearing those tight knit body suits (not a pretty sight guys).
Anyway, I really did think that Halle Berry had the most glamorous life. She is incredibly beautiful, rich, and a bonafide movie star. Who wouldn't want to trade places with Mz Burry? One day, my mother told me after reading a People Magazine article, that Halle suffers from diabetes. My mom used Halle's illness as a way to allow me to feel better about myself.
She said, "Ya see, she has diabetes and you're perfectly healthy, so you need to be thankful that God gave you good health because it could be a lot worse."
Mom is right. It could be worse. The grass is not always greener on the other side. The life on the outside is not always as pretty on the inside.
In the early 90s shortly after Halle's breakup with David Justice I thought to myself, wow...she's getting a divorce?
After her split with Eric Benet I thought to myself, wow...he cheated on Halle?
After her split with the hotness that is Michael Ealy I thought to myself, wow...her track record is not doing so well.
After her split with the finest French-Canadian I've seen in my entire life Mr. Gabriel Aubry I thought to myself, wow...this is really not happening. Not the babidaddy too Halle!
Now she is in a relationship with another fine Frenchman by the name of Olivier Martinez. I really hate to say this, but given the course of events during the last week over his scuffle with Gabriel, I have a bad feeling about this relationship too.
Why can't Halle keep a man?
And if Halle can't keep a man...then where's the hope?
I shouldn't compare myself with another human being because God has a specific plan for each of us, but it saddens me to know that her track record with significant others is batting way under the national average.
I guess it goes back to what my Mom told me a several years ago. Life is not always greener on the other side. One person's triumphs and successes does not ever match or compare to that of another human being. If Halle can't find Mr. Right, then there is obviously a reason behind it. A reason no one but God Himself knows, but as for me, I can't compare myself to other people. I use the Halle example, because in my life, she was the epitome of the kind of woman I wanted to be. The Halle Concept is not specific to dating, men, relationships, etc. It's generally for all of us who have wanted to live vicariously through the life of that Hollywood role model or even our best friend and compare their glamorous lives to ours.
We should stop comparing and really try to figure out what your circumstances mean. Good, bad, or indifferent. There is a lesson to be learned for every experience. Take a moment and stand still. You may just miss the moral to your story.
As for Halle, I hope it all works out for her in the end. I'm not sure I would want to trade places with someone who has dealt with so much heartbreak in her relationships. I'd rather be myself and keep my peace of mind. I guess that's just it---it's okay to be myself.
