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| From lifeishuman.com |
I signed up a couple weeks ago for an online dating service. I won't tell you the name of it, but it has to do with an aquatic animal. Hint. Hint. Anyway, against my better judgement---I reluctantly signed up because a girlfriend of mine at work highly encouraged me to do so. She gave me a few testimonials about how successful the site has been in her friend's lives, so I figured what the hell...I may as well go for it.
It's only been a couple weeks and I have been inundated with emails from guys. Some guys look like healthy prospects and others are complete losers. I had one guy email me to tell me he farted. Yes, seriously his email said in just a few respectful words:
I farted yo...
Classy right? There was this one guy who emailed me (a fellow blerd) and I thought we kind of hit it off in the beginning and then I never heard back from him again. I'm so sick of dealing with flakes. There was this other guy who was sexy as hell and he came off very gentleman-like and reverent until he said he wanted to hook up with me and make out. I would say five years ago, I probably would have taken him up on his offer. Casual dating was never a problem for me. However, now that I am at an age where I would like to settle and be in a permanent monogamous relationship, having a make-out session or even a casual sex encounter right off the bat is completely off the table. I want to get to know you and I want you to get to know me. Call me old fashioned, but that's just the way its got to be.
Ain't nobody got time for that.
I can't believe that men in my age bracket still want "the hookup". Then there is the conundrum. I receive emails from men who are slightly older or around my age that has it all together. Great job, wants a committed relationship, and is willing to offer me everything I'm looking for. However, when I see their photo I cringe. Am I wrong for wanting physical attraction to trump all when it comes to seeking a relationship? Now don't get me wrong, the sexy guy that wanted the hookup was someone who I dismissed too, so I still hold on strong to my standards in the area of being a woman of high regard for her self-worth and body. However, why are the good men always the least attractive to me? Is it me? Are my physical standards too high? Or is it that handsome guys know they can take advantage of as many women as they want and enjoy the chase rather than to take a seat and settle down?
I have no clue. Earlier this week another girlfriend of mine suggested that I should be a little more extroverted when it comes to approaching men. It is not a part of my DNA to be extroverted at anything. I'm shy, reticent, and prefer the company of my laptop and smartphone rather than a human being. It's just my nerd nature. In her opinion she says that I am missing out simply because I am not making the effort to socialize and get to know a guy who I find attractive if he's walking down the street or sits alone in the cafeteria at work. I must admit, I would NEVER approach a guy I found attractive. In fact, I tend to run for hills, avoid all eye contact, and hope that maybe he will notice me instead.
Ugggh...I know I'm such a lost cause, but I'm not sure what to do. In the meantime I will continue to peruse the online dating sites, and hope that Mr. Right will find me when the time is right. That's what I'm looking forward to anyway.
