I'm a former gamma, still working my way up and out. I recently married a smart, sexy woman and erstwhile bitch. Sometimes my gamma and her bitch come out together to remind us what a horrible couple we would have made 10 years ago. For example, yesterday while driving home from a friend's house and discussing something completely innocuous, she said a particular thing had never happened, which I thought was improbable in the extreme. (It's not important what it was that did or didn't happen.) I didn't want to say "That's absurd," so I said something like "It probably happened and you just forgot about it."The best response was to simply let it go from the start. This is why sigmas tend to find women so much easier to handle than gammas, we're too caught up in our own narcisstic interests to be overly concerned about whatever their latest whims happen to be. To recap, she said something completely trivial and he not only took it seriously, he actually went out of his way to be disagreeable and start an argument. Consider this to be the requisite slap to the back of his head.
Then followed an argument of the yes it did/no it didn't sort until I stepped back and asked why we were arguing about something that didn't matter. She responded with, "What do you mean it doesn't matter? You're telling me that I'm stupid and don't have a fucking clue about what goes on in my own life!" (She actually has a higher IQ than I do, but her intelligence is frequently eclipsed by her emotions.) I denied it and then we argued about that for a few minutes before I said I was done and nixed the topic.
We rode the rest of the way home in complete silence and didn't speak more than two words to each other at a time until the next morning. The entire night I knew that this was exactly the wrong thing to be doing, but I couldn't for the life of me think of the right thing. I know that we'll be in this situation again, and I'd like to be able to handle it better. What are some better responses?
What the gamma needed here is Indifference Game, which is all about letting the wookie win. Did it matter what she said happened or didn't happen? Did he care one iota about the matter before she brought it up? It's hardly unheard of for women to say absolutely stupid and provably false things for no reason. So let them. You are not the Reality Police. Unless a woman has asked you to refine her mind or is showing an active interest in improving her capacity for reason, always leave her to her Happy Unicorn Land. Unless a woman is actively disagreeing with me or is opining on a substantive issue, I don't care if she wants to assert that the Yankees won five Super Bowls or Brad Pitt is sexier than George Clooney. What does any of that have to do with me or my interests?
Gamma: "Um, I think you mean the Cowboys or the 49ers. Or maybe you were thinking of the Steelers, they won six."
Sigma: "Are you a Yankees fan too? I love the Yankees! Do you think they should have drafted a quarterback this year?"
That doesn't mean to ignore a woman when she is talking or to communicate solely in the form of wordless grunts, it simply means that you should go along for the ride. You can have a perfectly lovely time discussing practically anything with practically any woman so long as you don't take them seriously. This is why women consider gay men to be such great conversationalists; most gay men could not possibly care less what any woman thinks about anything and they are perfectly happy to ride along on whatever flight of fancy happens to present itself.
And while everyone does it from time to time, arguing about arguing is totally pointless. It merely leads to absurdities like the gamma's wife demonstrating that she is, at the moment, at least functionally stupid and without a clue. Hint: if you are beginning a sentence with "are you saying that" or "you're telling me", then the chances are the accurate response will be "no, I'm doing nothing of the kind." Once the argument reaches that point, stop talking, stop listening, and enjoy the fact that you have an evening of guaranteed free time on hand.
On a tangential note, I suspect one reason that many women instinctively dislike online games is that they have entirely defanged the threat of the silent treatment. "Okay, I understand that you're mad. But let me get this straight. You're not going to lobby me to go shopping, watch a romantic comedy, or even interrupt me while I play Call of Duty online for six straight hours? I shall endeavor to survive the punishment."
