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These two girls, Tia & Tamara know what it's like trying to have it all.
"Credit: Matthias Clamer/Style Network"
These two girls, Tia & Tamara know what it's like trying to have it all.
It use to be wanting to have it all meant having a happy marriage, a good job and healthy kids but now wanting to have it all is usually wanting a perfect marriage, a perfect job and perfect kids. There is no wonder that trying to accomplish these things just leads to you drained and unhappy. Sometimes we all try to hard to find something that doesn't exist and never will exist.
It's exhausting really trying to have great communication with your spouse or significant other, have a great sex life with your spouse or significant other , a great relationship with your kids, taking your kids to sports, volunteering for this and for that, staying in touch with friends, staying in touch with your family, cooking, cleaning, working. See? Exhausting right?
My husband and I have been married for 11 years this month (July 27th) and I can attest to having a perfect marriage is IMPOSSIBLE! Having a happy and loving marriage though is definitely doable. You have to learn how to let go when your fighting over stuff that doesn't even matter. Just the other day I was upset at my husband for saying something that I took the wrong way. In my heart I knew he didn't mean it but I still let it bother me and was mad at him for the entire day. Then just this past week a good friend of mine lost her husband in a car wreak. Just like that he was there one moment, gone the next. I couldn't sleep that night because all I could think about is how stupid I had acted about the little things I let bother me. I love my husband and God forbid something ever happened to him.
I'm also admittedly hard on my daughter. She is my only child and will be my only child so sometimes I forget that she's just that, a child. When she acts up I get frustrated and sometimes it's hard for me to just stop and say stop being so overbearing. Let them be kids, yelling and screaming and mud and dirt may not look perfect but it sure is damn fun.
We all want the outside world to see everything in our house is running so perfect that sometimes we are so focused in making it look that way that we totally ignore actually being in it. Don't measure yourself to what you see everyone else doing because I guarantee their little world within themselves is just as much scatter brained and all over the place as yours as well.
When it comes to dealing with everything that comes with being an adult and having responsibilities and relationships no one can have it all but you sure can have a very good slice of the pie. We all just have to learn to step back and figure out what does 'it all' really mean.
Do you know what having it all means to me? Having these two gorgeous faces in my life every single day. We went camping this past weekend and while we were away from all the worries of the world I realized that this is what it means to have it all. The important people in your life. The ones you would wouldn't care if you had the perfect life or perfect job for as long as you see them smile every day. Live in the moment, it's amazing just the way it is. :)
Have you watched Tia & Tamera on Style Network? On Sunday July 14th their new season will be airing. What I love about this reality show is that these girls are just like myself and a lot of you readers too. They are dealing with the same struggles that we all deal with marriage, children, work and just every day life. On past seasons they have shared their struggles of being away from family members when you are going through some of the toughest times in life, having struggles with trying to conceive and as well as trying to decide what to do best for their kids when it comes to jobs, schools, etc. It's like a page out of my own life.
Check out the Season 3 trailer and be sure to catch the first episode on Sunday July 14th 8/7 central on Style Network. Season 3 follows the twins as they redefine their roles and tackle new ventures.
Do you struggle with trying to have it?
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Be sure to pop over and enter the "Who is Your &?" contest in honor of the Season premiere of Tia & Tamera. The Style Network wants to know who is your &, is it your bestie, your sibling, your significant other, etc? You have a chance to win a $2,000 shopping spree! Um, yes please. :)
To participate:
1. FOLLOW @Celebuzz and @TheStyleNetwork on Instagram
2. UPLOAD a pic of you and your “&” to Instagram and tag it #TiaAndTameraCB. Tell the Style Network your story! Touch the Style Network’s hearts! Warm the Style Network’s souls! Show the Style Network what they mean to you!
3. Don’t forget to SHARE your pic on Twitter. (It’s not a requirement, but a fun way to share!)
4. Now you’re entered for a chance to WIN a $2,000 shopping spree to share with your other half!"
