NATURAL HAIR AND ITS NEGATIVE COMMENTS




So as we all know natural hair is crazy popular right now, so with that it has good but still lots of bad drawbacks from people. 

So where I currently live natural hair isn't really the norm. I live in a more white area and in order to seem professional one with kinky hair will typical feel the need to straighten it out. Ive heard things like "before I go to work these naps have to be laid down" I understand why certain women had this type of thinking, because I thought that exact same way. 

It wasn't until this past February when I made a personal decision to big chop my relaxed ends after growing out my natural texture for over a year. Once I cut my hair not only did I say goodbye to it but I guess mentally I was saying goodbye to my old way of thinking...about my hair (about myself).

Around this time  I started a new job in different part of town, and I quickly picked up on the fact that my afro wasn't going to be accepted. I got looks, stares, tons of questions still everyday where ever I went still rocked my hair big and poufy. I guess I always known this will/would happened in the beginning. My old way of thinking probably would have taking a flat iron to it immediately just by the negative responses that were floating around me. 

But I never allowed anyones comments to affect how I felt about myself. I took it in stride and smiled and carried myself with pride. Not worrying what one says about what I do. I didn't do this for acceptance I did this for myself and my own happiness.

I often would read blogs about other naturals feeling the need to change them selves because other people don't find their kinky hair "sexy, or attractive" Don't change yourself for NO BODY (not your man, parents, friends, club what ever the case maybe) because down the line you will feel regret because of sacrificing of your own happiness. People will always disapprove things but if what you are doing truly makes you happy who really cares what anyone else thinks. 

-Nikki Lajoy

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