Hello hello! Traveled to Alpha Game by way of Dr. Helen. I'm a pretty solid Beta/Delta, que sera, but looking to improve my Game. So here's my question of the day: Can you use a woman's greater knowledge and expertise in a subject to reel her in, or is this a violation of Core Maxim XII "Maximize your strengths, minimize your weaknesses"?Two things occur to me. First, there is a clear problem in that BR is thinking in terms of excuses. His Deltatude is revealed by the way in which he is concealing both his true purpose as well as his interest in her. This is an intrinsically BETA mindset; he doesn't appear to believe his interest is justified of its own accord or that it will be welcomed by her.
For example: Suppose you're a carpenter as a side hobby business. You've got a commission for some cabinets from someone who doesn't know squat about interior design, they just want you "to make them look good". You don't know squat about interior design either, but let's say you've got a woman on the line who does style herself an interior designer. Maybe you've gone out before, but not recently. Could you use that as an excuse to get her to have drinks with you? "Hey, I got this project, but I'd like to get your opinion on it. How about we get together for drinks, I'll show you some of my sketches, and you give me your thoughts on them?"
And if it isn't and it won't be, what is the point? If she's not at least somewhat interested already, how is more exposure to that in which she clearly isn't interested going to help? I think it is a bad idea to get back in touch with anyone, male or female, under false pretenses.
Second, encouraging women to talk about their interests and perceived strengths and skills is always a winner, if only for the fact that if she is talking, he isn't sabotaging himself. If you're not fascinating yourself, the next best thing is to be able to convince a woman that she is fascinating.
